Breastfeeding Sabotage, An American Epidemic, Part 1

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Is your breastfeeding relationship being sabotaged? Are you sure? Are you unknowingly sabotaging someone else’s breastfeeding relationship? How do you know?
There are five very common ways that our breastfeeding relationships get sabotaged. Today I’ll give you a list with quick descriptions, and slowly, over the next few months, I’ll make a post about each one in more detail.

What Our Experts Are Saying

Insights, recommendations, and advice for parents balancing kids and technology from the doctors, subject matter experts and thought leaders in the Modern Parent Project community.

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What to Do?

Direct, straightforward and summarized advice and recommendations.  Parents, please consider the following insights when navigating the challenging topic of kids and technology.

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What NOT to Do?

The wrong words or actions can sometimes make things worse with kids.  Parents, please consider avoiding the following potential traps.

Screen YouTube videos and channels

Be sure to watch and approve any YouTube video (or channel) your child watches. Not only will this allow you to approve content, it will provide you with a window into something that interests your child, allowing you to discuss and bond. Ask your children what it is they really like (or dislike) about the kids and characters on their favorite YouTube channels.

Agree to a household Usage Agreement

Make sure your kids understand and agree to your household usage agreements for electronics/watching video content.

Engage with your kids in pretend play

If their unstructured play tends toward imitating their favorite YouTube stars, try encouraging them to embrace different forms of imaginative play. Remember, there’s not a kid in the world that doesn’t light up when Mom or Dad joins them in pretend play!

Don't allow your child to watch YouTube unsupervised

There is no end to what your kids may discover on the Internet if left unattended.  YouTube Channels and other online content can be fantastic, but should not be viewed as a babysitter.

Don't allow your children to record themselves without supervision

We have seen, heard and helped countless families cope and deal with the aftermath of kids who recorded themselves without supervision.  They are some truly horrific stories.  What can start as innocent games can lead to stalking, blackmail, bullying, ridicule and a lifetime of scars for both your child and you.  Don’t let this happen to you.

Don't allow your child to post anything to YouTube without your permission

If you have never tried posting a video to YouTube or another similar site, you will be amazed to see how simple it is.  It is just like printing a document from your computer.  Rather than pushing ‘print’, you simply push the ‘upload’ or ‘publish’ button.  What is potentially scarier still is that many public elementary and middle schools require kids to create and publish content as part of their normal schoolwork.  Our point here is not that technology is bad, rather, without supervision and guidance, it is much easier than you think for kids to accidently share their home-grown content with the world.

Breastfeeding Sabotage, An American Epidemic, Part 1

Is your breastfeeding relationship being sabotaged? Are you sure? Are you unknowingly sabotaging someone else’s breastfeeding relationship? How do you know?

By Jenn Leonard

I am a labor doula, postpartum and infant care doula and childbirth educator. I am a mother of three with a variety of breastfeeding experiences.

Over twenty years ago my own breastfeeding relationship was sabotaged by misinformation and lack of the world wide web we have today. My future success in breastfeeding my next two children to 2 and 3 years made me very passionate about this subject and I became an avid researcher. What I’ve discovered is that our breastfeeding relationships are unintentionally sabotaged from many angles.

There are five very common ways that our breastfeeding relationships get sabotaged. Today I’ll give you a list with quick descriptions, and slowly, over the next few months, I’ll make a post about each one in more detail.

1. In the womb- Everything you do while pregnant affects you and your baby. Give yourself and baby the best start. Nutrition and exercise are crucial to growing strong, healthy, full-term babies that are ready in all ways to transition from passively being fed through the umbilical cord to actively seeking out their own food and doing it efficiently.

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2. Labor- Keep baby inside as long as possible. Unless there is a true medical necessity, the safest place for your baby is in your womb until baby’s lungs trigger the start of labor. Some medications can affect breastfeeding. Sometimes medications and inductions are necessary. Work with your provider to find what is best for you. Know the risks and benefits. These are your very first parenting decisions.

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3. Immediate Postpartum- Get those babies skin to skin. They don’t need baths, they don’t need to be poked and prodded. They need you. Take advantage of that Golden Hour.

4. Postpartum- Take it easy. Rest, focus on your baby. Learn to co-sleep safely. (hint: co-sleeping is not the same as bed-sharing) Answer your babies cues right away. It’s a hard job, but it’s one you’ve waited 9 long months for. Embrace it. Feeding that baby is the only important thing in life right now. No one can do it for you. Every time baby gets something other than your breast milk in their body, your body is learning not to produce milk at that time. If the baby is getting a bottle, even if it’s your breast milk, pumping tells your body to make more. Why give yourself the extra work? Skip the middleman for at least 6 weeks and teach your body about supply and demand. The dishes can wait. The laundry can wait. If they can’t, get a postpartum doula to help you out.

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5. Support- First, make sure you reach out for support ANYWHERE and EVERYWHERE you can. Go to local breastfeeding support groups, La Leche League meetings, join Facebook groups. The more the better. Experience varies widely when it comes to breastfeeding and if you limit yourself to 5-20 others all looking for advice you’ll hear the same information over and over again and it keeps getting repeated; right or wrong. Make sure the people you’re getting support from have, or have attained the same goals as you. If the person giving you advice has only been breastfeeding for a month, they could be making the same mistakes you are. Have they taken classes to teach me about breastfeeding? How long did they breastfeed? Why? Was it a choice?

We’ll discuss all of the sabotages and more in future posts. Until then, keep up the good work!

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Postpartum

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Instead of pretending to be superheroes or cops or robbers, many kids are now opting to imagine themselves as real modern heroes: YouTube video kid stars. According to a 2016 survey, one of the fastest growing markets for digital video is younger than you might think- try ages 11 and under. This article blends the author’s first-hand experience with his own young children and his report from various camps related to YouTube production and consumption.

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What Our Experts Are Saying

Insights, recommendations, and advice for parents balancing babies and the blues from the doctors, subject matter experts and thought leaders in the Modern Parent Project community.

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What to Do?

Direct, straightforward and summarized advice and recommendations.  Parents, please consider the following insights when navigating the challenging topic of postpartum blues and moods.

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What NOT to Do?

The wrong words or actions can sometimes make things worse.  Parents, please consider avoiding the following potential traps when navigating the challenging topic of postpartum blues and moods.

Speak openly with your doctor about what you are experiencing.

It's important to speak openly with your healthcare professional regarding how you are feeling. Though not normal, postpartum mood disorders are very common and you are not alone.

Create a support system who will be there for your through your experience of postpartum mood disorder.

Share how you are feeling with the people you are close to. These people will help make up your support team and will be an integral part to your recovery.

Seek Counseling with someone who specializes in or has worked with postpartum mood disorders.

Having a postpartum mood disorder can be a scary and bewildering experience. Talking with a trained professional who understands your situation will be paramount in your recovery.

Don't keep your feelings to yourself.

It's important that you share your feelings with both your doctor and your loved ones.

Don't think that you are alone in your struggle.

Postpartum mood disorders are not normal, but they are common, and you do not have to suffer in silence.

Don't believe the lie that you are a bad mom.

Having a postpartum mood disorder does not make you a bad mom. You are struggling with a real illness that is treatable.

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