How To Lock Down Your Child’s iPhone and iPad Access

The ability to restrict the use of an iPhone or iPad is an underused but essential feature for parents.  You wouldn’t let your children drive without a seatbelt and you shouldn’t let your children use an unlocked phone.

Whether you’re paranoid about your kids downloading apps, racking up huge bills or if you’d simply like to hide a few apps and turn off a few features, iOS’s built-in Restrictions settings allow you to do it.

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How to set up parental controls with restrictions for iPhone or iPad

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To use Parental Control restrictions, you need to enable them in Settings. It does involve creating a passcode to prevent anyone else, especially oh-so-clever kids, from just turning everything back on again. However, once you’ve got everything set up according to your child’s age and temperament, and your own personal preferences, you can let them use an iOS device without having to worry so much that they’ll see or hear anything inappropriate, change anything they shouldn’t be changing, or buy anything they shouldn’t be buying — including in-app purchases!  Here’s how…

Set A Passcode & Restrict Service

The first thing you’ll need to do in order to start restricting what a certain iPhone oriPad can do is set a passcode that only you know. Head to Settings > General > Restrictions and input a memorable passcode. You’ll need this in the future to enable or disable features, and though we’ve included recovery instructions below, it’s best not to forget it.

Once you’ve set a passcode, you’ll see a list of apps at the top of the screen (including SafariCamera, and FaceTime) — unchecking these will essentially turn them off. There’s also a list of services that allows you to turn off iTunes and the ability to install, delete, or buy in-app purchases. These are particularly handy if you don’t want your kids running up large bills.

In case you don’t want to prevent access entirely, you can also turn off a user’s ability to download apps, music, TV shows, and other iTunes content by rating — which is shown at the bottom of each App Store and iTunes listing. You can turn off each item individually; for example, you can disable Movies and TV shows entirely, while allowing certain apps if you like.

There are also controls for Siri and specific websites, which allows you to prevent the iPhone assistant from searching the web or searching using explicit language, as well as a built-in content filter for the web as a whole. You can even setup a whitelist of allowed websites by choosing Specific Websites Only under Websites.

Privacy is another concern for many parents, and thankfully, there are controls to disable location services on a per-app basis. This is handy if you use location sharing in iMessage to keep track of your children, but want to limit their ability to enable location sharing on social media or using messaging apps. You can even disable the microphone for certain apps, though not for FaceTime or regular phone calls (so you can always keep in touch).

Each of these individual settings has an option for disabling changes. If you chooseDon’t Allow Changes, the user will not be able to grant access to new apps for things like Location Services. Only you will be able to manually approve permissions from this menu.

Help! I Forgot My Restrictions Passcode

There’s nothing you can do to reset the passcode outside of a fairly drawn-out process of modifying files stored in a backup, then restoring that backup. Simply restoring your phone from a backup you made in iTunes will not work — the code is stored as a part of the backup.

Previously, the only way to do this was using pricey backup extraction software, but a freeware tool called pinfinder provides all you need on Windows, OS X, and even Linux. Here’s how to use it:

Create a backup of your device in iTunes.

Download pinfinder and run it (you can find operating system-specific instructions on the project’s GitHub page).

Allow the program to do its thing. It will look for the restriction PIN for all devices, with the most recently backed up device shown first.  Don’t let your children find out about this trick!

Once you’ve extracted a code, you should be able to input it on the Settings > General > Restrictions screen and regain access.

If you’d like to disable restrictions altogether, choose the Disable Restrictions option at the top of the menu, which will return the iPhone or iPadto its previously unrestricted state.

Useful Restrictions You Might Want to Use

Funnily enough, iOS restrictions aren’t just for parents. Anyone can use this feature in order to hide unwanted apps and even make some services (like Apple Music) better. To hide an app, simply head to Settings > General > Restrictions, create a PIN that you’ll remember (perhaps use your device’s PIN), and disable any apps you never use.

Maybe you’re lending your phone to someone and don’t want them to see your browser history? Consider disabling Safari temporarily, without having to delete personal data. Hate that little dictation button that you’re always hitting by mistake, and have no use for Siri? Turn them both off with a tap (though you can’t disable them independently unfortunately).

Maybe you don’t use the Podcasts app, or would rather someone didn’t snoop through your listening list? You can turn that one off too.

You can also disable cellular data use, stop changes being made to your Apple ID — even restrict the volume limit (handy for parties?) using this menu. It all depends on how controlling you want (or feel that you need) to be.

My favorite restrictions tip involves Apple’s recently launched Music streaming service. By default, Apple Music doesn’t dedicate a tab to playlists, so in order to access your playlists, you have to go to Music, then choose playlists with another tap. If you disable Apple Music Connect from within the Restrictions menu, you’ll find a handy Playlists tab along the bottom of the screen in place of the social feed. If you use playlists a lot, this is a must.

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